Finding Middle Ground in Your Life and Divorce

Why this Divorce Attorney May Send You on Your Way Someone once described my job as that of an undertaker, saying that "divorce is not the death of the marriage, it is the funeral."  For the majority of people who come to my office for a divorce, that is true.  For many, the marriage ended long ago, sometimes months or years before people come into my office to finally move forward.  There have been years of disconnect, of fundamental irreconcilable differences.  Sometimes there is fighting-- lots of fighting.  Sometimes there is just silence.  For some, there are years without sex. Yes, years.  Fights about money, children, or family and the list goes on.  Specific reasons are as varied as the people who walk in my door. However, the often familiar lament of “we just fell out of love" seems to me the saddest of all.   Fell out of love?  They make it sound like they fell over a misplaced shoe.   What? No birds chirping? Well then, let’s just get a divorce.  What

Why 50/50 Timesharing is Not Always the Answer. “Timesharing” sounds like such a lovely idea.  So very civilized.  We will all do the very thing we teach our child to do almost from out of the womb.  Share. Share something you love.   Easy enough, right?  We pull the toy out of the very hands of the child who will not share.  Those who don’t share are deemed naughty.  Children are even evaluated in school for their ability to share.  It is a fundamental human social skill.  We are all on the sharing bandwagon-until you get a divorce and the very thing you have to share is your child. Then all this sharing crap goes right out the window and people are back on the playground, only this time they are paying roughly a collective $1,000 per hour to get their share of what belongs to them.  After all, anything less than half just wouldn’t be fair to them.  Children, however, don’t divide as easily as the furniture and sometimes 50/50 timesharing is the most unfair resolution of al